Start with a simple, casual greeting
Ask an easy question about the situation you are both in
Mention something you genuinely noticed about them
Use a shared class, work, or hobby as a conversation starter
Ask for their opinion on something low-pressure
Bring up a common interest
Keep your first message short and natural
Smile and make eye contact if speaking in person
Listen to their response and follow up on it
Avoid trying too hard or sounding scripted
Be confident and relaxed
End the conversation on a positive note if it goes well