Open Minecraft Java Edition
Make sure you and your friend are using the same Minecraft version
Join the same multiplayer server
Add your friend to the server’s whitelist if you are the server owner
Share the server IP address with your friend
Add your friend through a mod or plugin if the server uses one
Use a Realms subscription and invite your friend to the Realm
Add your friend on a third-party launcher or server platform if required
Use LAN if you are on the same local network
Add your friend on Discord or another chat app to coordinate joining the same server