Acknowledge the loss and say it is real
Use the baby’s name if the person wants you to
Listen without trying to fix it
Offer simple support like meals, errands, or childcare
Check in regularly with short, gentle messages
Let them choose whether to talk about it
Avoid minimizing phrases like “at least” or “you can try again”
Validate their grief, anger, guilt, or numbness
Encourage rest, hydration, and basic self-care
Respect their need for privacy or space
Ask how you can help instead of guessing
Remember important dates and reach out
Support both partners, if applicable
Suggest professional support if grief feels overwhelming
Be patient with healing and mood changes
Remind them they are not alone
Encourage them to seek medical follow-up if needed
Offer companionship for appointments or difficult days
Keep inviting them without pressure
Accept that healing may not follow a timeline