Make sure there is clear, enthusiastic consent
Wash your hands and trim your nails
Have privacy, comfort, and enough time
Use plenty of water-based or silicone-based lubricant
Start with external arousal first
Insert one or two fingers into the vagina
Curl the fingers upward toward the front vaginal wall
Feel for a slightly different texture or raised area
Use a gentle “come here” motion
Adjust pressure and angle slowly
Communicate about what feels good or uncomfortable
Stop if there is pain, numbness, or irritation
Remember that not everyone finds the same spot or enjoys the same stimulation