Observe how they treat people who can do nothing for them
Notice whether they listen to understand or only to respond
Pay attention to their curiosity about your inner life
Watch how they handle disagreement and criticism
See whether they are consistent across settings and audiences
Notice if they make others feel seen, respected, and safe
Look for humility rather than self-importance
Pay attention to whether they ask good, open-ended questions
Observe how they talk about their past, values, and turning points
Notice whether they can name their own weaknesses and blind spots
Watch how they behave under stress, pressure, or disappointment
See whether they are generous with attention and empathy
Notice if they are more interested in connection than performance
Pay attention to the stories they tell about themselves and others
Look for signs of integrity between their words and actions
Notice whether they can hold complexity without rushing to judgment
Observe how they repair relationships after conflict or mistakes
Pay attention to whether they are present or distracted in conversation
Notice if they make space for your full humanity
Look for evidence that they are shaped by love, service, and responsibility