Talk with your partner about boundaries, consent, and a stop word
Trim and file fingernails
Wash hands thoroughly
Use plenty of water-based or silicone-based lubricant
Start with external touch and relaxation
Begin with a well-lubricated finger or small toy
Go slowly and stop if there is pain
Relax the pelvic floor and breathe steadily
Avoid numbing creams or alcohol/drugs
Use condoms on toys and change them between uses
Keep everything clean before and after
Empty your bowels beforehand if helpful
Consider a warm shower or bath to relax
Choose a comfortable position
Communicate throughout
Stop if you notice bleeding, severe pain, or dizziness
Seek medical care if pain or bleeding persists