Use clean hands or a clean, body-safe toy
Start with consent and clear communication
Begin with gentle touching around the vulva
Use light pressure on the clitoral hood first
Try slow circles, side-to-side strokes, or tapping
Increase pressure gradually if it feels good
Use lubrication to reduce friction
Pay attention to feedback and adjust accordingly
Avoid direct, intense contact if it feels too sensitive
Vary speed, pressure, and rhythm
Stimulate the surrounding areas if direct touch is uncomfortable
Stop if there is pain, numbness, or discomfort