Get clear, enthusiastic consent before anything else
Discuss boundaries, limits, and hard limits in advance
Agree on safewords or clear stop signals
Learn basic BDSM safety, risk awareness, and aftercare
Communicate calmly, confidently, and directly
Be responsible for the other person’s physical and emotional well-being
Start with low-intensity activities and build slowly
Pay attention to body language, tone, and feedback
Stay in control of yourself, not just the scene
Be consistent, fair, and trustworthy
Respect boundaries immediately if they change
Check in before, during, and after
Practice aftercare and follow-up
Keep learning about consent, safety, and technique
Never pressure, manipulate, or ignore a no
Focus on mutual trust, not domination without consent