Determine the type of restraining order needed (personal protection, domestic violence, harassment, stalking, workplace, or child-related)
Check the correct court and jurisdiction for your area (city/county/state where you live or where the incident occurred)
Gather required information and documents (incident dates/times, addresses, names of involved parties, police report/case numbers if any, photos, messages, medical records, witness information, and any evidence of threats or abuse)
Write a clear timeline of events and what you are requesting the court to order
Fill out the restraining order forms from the court website or clerk’s office
Complete the “request” sections specifying the relief you want (no contact, stay-away order, distance requirements, temporary custody/exchange terms if applicable, and any other requested protections)
If required, prepare a sworn declaration/affidavit and sign it in the required manner (some courts require signing before a clerk/notary)
File the forms with the court clerk (in person or online if available)
Pay the filing fee if required or request a fee waiver if eligible
Attend the required hearing (often the court issues a temporary order first, then schedules a hearing)
Provide any additional evidence at the hearing and bring copies for the court
Arrange service of the order on the other person if required (the court may require sheriff/constable service; do not serve unless the court allows it)
Confirm service is completed and keep proof of service
Follow court instructions exactly (no contact/distance terms, custody/exchange terms, and any safety-related requirements)
Keep certified copies of the order with you and provide copies to relevant parties as directed by the court (school, employer, childcare, etc.)
If the order is violated, call law enforcement and report the violation immediately
Request an extension or renewal before the order expires if permitted and needed
Update the court if address/phone/employment/custody details change, if required
Seek assistance from a local domestic violence/harassment/stalking advocacy organization or legal aid for form completion and filing steps