Ask for clear, enthusiastic consent first
Communicate about preferences, boundaries, and any off-limits areas
Wash your hands and trim/file nails
Make sure the area is clean and you are comfortable
Start slowly and pay attention to her reactions
Use gentle kissing and licking around the outer vulva first
Focus on the clitoris gently if she wants that
Vary pressure, speed, and rhythm based on her feedback
Use your tongue, lips, and mouth in ways she enjoys
Check in verbally or nonverbally during the experience
Stop immediately if she seems uncomfortable or asks you to stop
Respect her privacy and consent at all times
Use protection if there is any risk of STI transmission
Avoid doing anything if either of you is intoxicated or unable to consent