Set clear boundaries and state them calmly
Do not argue about his version of reality
Keep conversations brief and focused on facts
Avoid reacting emotionally to provocation
Document abusive, manipulative, or threatening behavior
Protect your finances, accounts, and important documents
Maintain privacy around passwords, devices, and personal information
Build a support system of trusted friends, family, or a therapist
Prioritize your safety and the safety of any children
Seek counseling for yourself
Consider couples therapy only if it is safe and appropriate
Do not accept blame for his abusive behavior
Limit exposure when he is escalating or trying to provoke conflict
Use written communication when possible
Plan ahead for difficult interactions
Make an exit plan if the relationship becomes unsafe
Contact domestic violence resources if you feel controlled or threatened
Trust your instincts if something feels wrong
Focus on your well-being and long-term stability