Communicate clearly about desires, boundaries, and consent before starting
Discuss safer sex practices and any STI concerns
Wash hands and trim nails to reduce the risk of irritation or injury
Use plenty of water-based or silicone-based lubricant as needed
Start with kissing, touching, and other forms of foreplay if desired
Explore external stimulation of the vulva, clitoris, breasts, and other erogenous zones
Use fingers gently and check in often about comfort and pleasure
Consider using a barrier such as gloves or finger condoms for added hygiene
If using sex toys, clean them before and after use and do not share them without protection
Use condoms on shared toys when appropriate and change them between partners
Pay attention to each partner’s responses and adjust pressure, pace, and technique
Stop immediately if there is pain, discomfort, or a request to stop
Afterward, clean up, cuddle, talk, and check in about how it felt