Start with respect and calm tone
Ask open-ended questions
Listen without interrupting
Focus on shared values
Avoid insults and labels
Use specific issues, not broad attacks
Separate the person from the politician
Find common ground first
Keep your own points concise
Ask for sources and evidence
Stay curious, not combative
Acknowledge valid concerns
Don’t try to “win” every exchange
Know when to end the conversation
Set boundaries if the discussion turns hostile