Wash hands thoroughly and trim nails short
Use plenty of water-based or silicone-based lubricant
Empty your bladder first
Choose a private, relaxed setting
Start with external stimulation and relaxation
Insert a lubricated finger slowly into the rectum only if you are comfortable doing so
Aim toward the front wall of the rectum, a few inches inside
Locate the prostate as a firm, rounded area
Use gentle pressure only
Massage slowly in small circular or stroking motions
Stop immediately if there is pain, bleeding, or significant discomfort
Keep breathing steadily and relax the pelvic muscles
Communicate clearly with any partner and use consent throughout
Use a glove or finger cot if preferred
Clean hands, toys, and the area thoroughly afterward
Seek medical advice before trying if you have hemorrhoids, anal fissures, prostatitis, rectal bleeding, or other prostate or rectal conditions