Look for changes in routine, availability, or communication patterns
Notice increased secrecy around phone, email, and social media
Watch for unexplained absences, late nights, or sudden schedule changes
Pay attention to changes in intimacy, affection, or emotional distance
Check for unusual spending, hidden receipts, or unfamiliar charges
Observe defensiveness, irritation, or overexplaining when asked simple questions
Compare stated whereabouts with verifiable facts and timelines
Review shared devices and accounts only if you have legal access and permission
Keep a private log of suspicious events, dates, and details
Gather evidence through lawful means only
Consider hiring a licensed private investigator
Consult a family law attorney before taking major steps
Prioritize your safety and avoid confrontation if there is any risk of violence
If you decide to confront, do so calmly and with specific facts
Prepare for possible outcomes, including counseling, separation, or divorce