Be certain of your decision before starting the conversation
Choose a private, calm time and place
Speak directly and respectfully
Use clear, honest language
Avoid blaming, insulting, or arguing
Focus on your decision, not on winning the discussion
Keep your tone calm and steady
Acknowledge her feelings and give her space to respond
Do not bring up divorce during a fight or in public
Be prepared for shock, anger, sadness, or silence
Set boundaries if the conversation becomes too heated
Discuss immediate practical matters only if necessary
Be honest about next steps, such as living arrangements or legal help
Avoid making promises you cannot keep
If needed, suggest speaking with a lawyer or counselor
Follow up with written communication if important details need to be documented