Ask for clarification and restate your understanding of what she wants
Offer a respectful alternative if you cannot do exactly what she asked
Say no calmly and directly if the request is unsafe, harmful, or unfair
Keep your tone polite and avoid arguing
Explain your boundary briefly without overexplaining
Repeat your position if she pushes back
Leave the conversation if it becomes heated
Involve a trusted adult or family member if needed
Follow house rules and safety rules even when disagreeing
Apologize if your refusal was rude, but not for having a boundary