Wash hands thoroughly and trim nails
Use plenty of water-based or silicone-based lubricant
Relax fully and breathe slowly
Start with external stimulation around the perineum
Gently insert a well-lubricated, body-safe finger or prostate massager into the rectum
Aim toward the front wall of the rectum, a few centimeters in
Use slow, gentle pressure and small circular or “come here” motions
Stop if there is pain, bleeding, or significant discomfort
Use a condom on toys and clean them before and after use
Communicate clearly with your partner about pressure and comfort
Avoid prostate stimulation if you have rectal pain, fissures, hemorrhoids, or recent surgery without medical advice