Determine the type of restraining order needed (domestic violence, harassment/stalking, civil harassment, or workplace/school-related)
Gather evidence (police reports, incident logs, photos/videos, screenshots, emails/texts, voicemails, witness statements, medical records, prior restraining orders)
Document dates, times, locations, and specific threats/acts
Identify the court and filing location in your area (often the county/state courthouse or family court)
Check eligibility requirements (relationship to the respondent, residency, where events occurred, minimum evidence/incident standards)
Complete the required forms (petition/request, declaration/affidavit, temporary order request, service information, other required attachments)
Write a clear, specific statement of facts describing what happened and what protection is requested
File the forms with the court clerk and pay any required fees or request a fee waiver
Request an emergency/temporary order if there is immediate danger
Arrange for proper service on the respondent (typically by sheriff/process server/authorized server; follow court rules)
File proof of service with the court once served
Attend the scheduled hearing and bring all evidence and witnesses
Ask for specific protections you want (no-contact, distance/exclusion zones, removal of firearms if applicable, stay-away orders, custody/visitation modifications if relevant)
Follow the court’s order exactly and keep copies accessible
If the respondent violates the order, report it to law enforcement and bring documentation
Renew or modify the order before it expires if allowed and needed
Seek legal assistance from a local domestic violence or legal aid organization if you need help completing forms or understanding next steps