Ensure clear, enthusiastic consent first
Communicate what you want and ask what she wants
Keep hygiene and cleanliness (trim nails, clean hands, shower)
Use plenty of lubrication
Start slowly and pay attention to her reactions
Use gentle, varied pressure and pace based on her feedback
Focus on what feels good for her, not a preset technique
Maintain eye contact or check in regularly if it helps her
Respond immediately to discomfort, hesitation, or “stop” cues
Pause and adjust if she pulls away or tenses up
Prioritize her pleasure and comfort throughout
Use safe sex practices if there’s any risk of STI exposure
Avoid pressure on sensitive areas if she indicates pain
Keep breathing steady and stay present in the moment
Aftercare: ask how she feels, offer water, and be attentive