Ask for clear, enthusiastic consent before anything starts
Make sure both of you are adults and comfortable
Wash your hands and keep nails trimmed and smooth
Create a relaxed, private, and safe setting
Start with kissing and other non-genital foreplay
Pay attention to her verbal and nonverbal reactions
Use gentle, slow oral contact at first
Focus on the clitoris and surrounding area with light pressure
Vary rhythm, pressure, and motion based on her response
Use your tongue, lips, and mouth comfortably and consistently
Check in occasionally with simple questions like “Is this good?”
Stop or change immediately if she says no or seems uncomfortable
Keep communication open about what she likes
Respect boundaries at all times
Stop when she wants to stop