Ask for clear, enthusiastic consent first
Communicate about boundaries, preferences, and any off-limits areas
Wash your hands and make sure your mouth and face are clean
Trim or clean your nails if your hands will be involved
Start slowly and pay attention to your partner’s reactions
Use gentle, varied pressure and pace
Focus on the clitoris, vulva, and surrounding areas if your partner wants that
Use your tongue softly and adjust based on feedback
Keep checking in verbally or nonverbally
Stop immediately if your partner says to stop or seems uncomfortable
Respect hygiene and consider barriers if needed for sexual health
Avoid doing anything that causes pain, irritation, or discomfort