Identify your triggers
Notice your protest behaviors
Pause before texting, calling, or seeking reassurance
Practice self-soothing skills
Challenge catastrophic thoughts
Replace mind-reading with direct communication
Set healthy boundaries
Build self-worth outside relationships
Maintain your own routines and interests
Tolerate uncertainty without acting immediately
Ask for reassurance in a calm, specific way
Choose emotionally available partners
Avoid chasing inconsistent people
Work on secure attachment habits consistently
Journal your feelings and patterns
Use mindfulness or grounding techniques
Strengthen friendships and support systems
Consider therapy, especially attachment-focused therapy
Practice secure communication
Give relationships time to develop naturally