Allow yourself to feel it without trying to rush past it
Cut or limit contact if it keeps you stuck
Avoid checking their social media or messages
Remove reminders (or store them away)
Rebuild your routine with structure and small goals
Spend time with supportive friends or family
Put energy into activities that feel meaningful to you
Exercise regularly to manage stress and mood
Get enough sleep and eat well
Write down what you’re feeling and what you’ve learned
Practice letting intrusive thoughts pass without engaging
Reframe the story from “missing them” to “missing what you had”
Set boundaries for any future interaction
Stop negotiating with the past; focus on what you want next
If you were the one who ended it, confirm your reasons and boundaries
If they ended it, accept that you can’t control their choices
Talk to someone you trust or a therapist if it’s hard to cope
Create new experiences to build new memories
Choose kindness toward yourself, including forgiving your own mistakes
Reduce triggers (places, songs, dates, people) for a while
Give yourself a realistic timeline; progress can be uneven
If you want closure, write an unsent letter and then move on
Focus on your values and make decisions that align with them
Plan for loneliness by scheduling connection, not waiting for it
Keep moving forward even when you backslide emotionally