Make sure it is fully consensual, mutual, and wanted by both people
Talk openly beforehand about boundaries, expectations, contraception, and STI protection
Choose a private, comfortable, and safe place with enough time and no pressure
Use protection, such as a condom, every time
Consider additional birth control if pregnancy prevention is important
Make sure both of you are sober and able to make clear decisions
Go slowly and check in with each other often
Use plenty of lubrication to reduce discomfort
Stop immediately if there is pain, fear, or uncertainty
Do not force anything
Focus on comfort, communication, and trust rather than performance
Be prepared for awkwardness or nerves; that is normal
Afterward, talk about how it felt and whether anything should be different next time
Seek medical advice if there is bleeding that seems heavy, severe pain, or any concern about STI exposure