Relax and reduce pressure on yourself
Learn what kinds of touch, pace, and pressure feel good to you
Explore your body privately and safely
Focus on arousal, not just the goal
Use lubrication if needed
Try steady, consistent stimulation
Breathe deeply and stay present
Strengthen pelvic floor muscles if helpful
Communicate clearly with a partner about what feels good
Give yourself time and patience
Avoid alcohol or drugs that reduce sensitivity
Seek medical advice if pain, numbness, or persistent difficulty is involved