Wash your hands and clean any sex toys you plan to use
Choose a private, comfortable place and a relaxed position
Use lubrication if you want more comfort (water-based is common)
If using a penis: choose a comfortable grip and start with light, slow stimulation
Gradually increase pressure and speed based on comfort
Focus on sensations and breathing; adjust as needed to avoid discomfort
If using a vagina/vulva: use fingers or a vibrator with gentle pressure
Start externally and adjust angle, pressure, and rhythm gradually
Use lubrication to reduce friction
If using external stimulation: explore clitoral areas gently and vary rhythm until comfortable
If using a vibrator: start low intensity and increase gradually
Stop if you feel pain, numbness, or irritation
Clean up afterward: wash hands and any toys with mild soap and water (or follow toy-cleaning instructions)
Consider using condoms or toy covers if sharing toys or if you want added hygiene
If you experience persistent pain, bleeding, or injury, seek medical advice