Ask for clear, enthusiastic consent first
Wash your hands and trim your nails
Make sure both of you are comfortable and relaxed
Start with kissing, touching, and other non-genital foreplay
Pay attention to her verbal and nonverbal reactions
Use gentle, varied pressure and pace
Focus on the vulva and clitoris, but avoid rushing
Use your tongue to explore slowly and softly
Try different motions and rhythms, and keep what she responds to best
Combine oral stimulation with hands if she likes it
Keep communication open and adjust based on her feedback
Stop immediately if she seems uncomfortable or asks you to stop
Practice safer sex by considering barriers and STI protection