Choose a private, calm time
Be clear and direct
Use “I” statements
State your decision without ambiguity
Avoid blaming or arguing
Keep your message brief
Prepare for strong emotions
Stay calm and respectful
Set boundaries for the conversation
Decide in advance what you want to discuss
Mention practical next steps if needed
Have a safe place to go if necessary
Tell a trusted person beforehand
Consider legal advice before the conversation
Plan for follow-up communication through a calm channel