Get clear, enthusiastic consent before anything sexual happens
Discuss boundaries, preferences, and what “no” means to both of you
Use protection every time (condoms for penis-in-vagina sex; condoms or barriers for other types as appropriate)
Consider STI and pregnancy prevention options and use them correctly
Make sure both partners are comfortable, relaxed, and not under the influence of drugs or alcohol that affects consent
Wash hands and any toys/sex aids before use
Use lubrication to reduce friction and discomfort
Go slowly, communicate during the process, and pause if either person wants to
Maintain eye contact and check in verbally (“Is this okay?” “Do you want to keep going?”)
Use condoms correctly (put on before any genital contact, pinch the tip, use enough lubrication, hold the base when pulling out)
Avoid removing or replacing condoms during penetration—use a new one if switching activities
If using toys, keep them clean and use condoms on toys if sharing between partners or switching from anal to vaginal use
If you experience pain, stop and reassess what feels wrong
After sex, consider hygiene (urinating after sex can help reduce UTI risk for some people)
Dispose of condoms and tissues properly and clean up shared items
If you’re unsure about consent, safety, or contraception, ask a trusted healthcare professional or use reliable sexual health resources