Confirm consent and readiness with all involved parties
Discuss boundaries, stop words, and what “no” means
Choose a lubricant that is body-safe and appropriate for anal use
Use a condom or a clean barrier if sharing with partners or using toys
Start slowly and only proceed if there is no pain
Use plenty of lubricant and reapply as needed
Consider using a finger first, then increase gradually if comfortable
Use a small amount of lubricant on the outside first, then more as needed
Go at a comfortable pace and stop if pain, burning, or bleeding occurs
Avoid forcing anything
Keep hands and any toys clean; wash toys before and after use
Use toys designed for anal (for example, with a flared base)
Use only one item at a time unless you are experienced and it’s agreed upon
Consider relaxing first (warm shower, breathing, or gentle stimulation)
Wear gloves or use clean hands if helpful
Consider trimming nails and avoiding sharp edges
Avoid swallowing lube or semen; use protection if relevant
If using enemas or douching, follow manufacturer guidance and avoid overdoing it
Stop douching if you feel pain or irritation
Eat and hydrate normally; avoid anything that causes irritation for you
If you have hemorrhoids, fissures, inflammatory bowel disease, or an active infection, consider medical guidance before trying
Seek medical help for persistent pain, significant bleeding, fever, or injury
Plan for cleanup: tissues, wipes, towels, and a trash plan
Wash with mild soap and water after; avoid harsh products inside the rectum
Use condoms/lube and discard or clean items properly after use