Identify the specific behavior or substance use problem
Gather facts about the impact on health, safety, work, relationships, and finances
Consult a licensed intervention professional if possible
Choose a small, calm, supportive group of participants
Select people the person trusts and respects
Avoid anyone who is angry, unreliable, or likely to escalate conflict
Agree on a clear goal for the intervention
Prepare a treatment plan, appointment, or next step in advance
Decide on boundaries and consequences if help is refused
Write brief, specific statements about how the behavior has affected each person
Rehearse what each person will say
Pick a private time and place with minimal distractions
Ensure the person is sober and not in immediate crisis
Keep the tone calm, respectful, and firm
Speak from personal experience using “I” statements
State the concern clearly and directly
Give concrete examples of harmful behavior
Present the treatment option and ask for immediate acceptance
Avoid arguing, blaming, shaming, or lecturing
Stay focused on the agreed message
Set limits if the person refuses help
Follow through on boundaries consistently
Arrange transportation and immediate support if the person agrees
Remove access to substances or dangerous items if needed
Contact emergency services if there is immediate risk of harm
Seek professional support for family members afterward